When I Look Back, I Don’t Wish I’d Been More Popular, and I Wish I’d Been More Secure and Loved Myself More.
I wish I had put myself first, wish I’d said “NO” a lot more, I wish I had been true to my own heart and I wish I had known my worth and realized my full potential. In a nutshell, I wish I had been better at being me. But we all wish these things when we get older, don’t we? That we’d done something a little different- a bit better?
As I’ve gotten older, I’ve grown a very thick skin and learned to handle any confrontation with composure and aplomb. As we get older, we shed that shell we curled up and hid in when we were younger. We grow to love and accept ourselves as we are and become comfortable in our own skins and let me tell you! It’s immense freedom that you can’t describe!
I’ve learned that the reason people bully is not because of something the victim has said or done and that it is not the fault of the victim. The reason bullies bully is because they have issues, whether it be a bad case of narcissism, low self-esteem, problems at home, jealousy of something the victims have that they don’t, or they have something to prove. I’ve learned that bullies, at their very core, are great big cowards and attention-seekers. That knowledge alone is freeing!
Just knowing why unsavory people do harm only serves as a huge buffer to any psycho/emotional blows. Today, I no longer get bullied by anyone, but if anyone tries, I am easily able to swiftly put the person in their place, or laugh and blow the idiot off. Instead of getting hurt or angry, I get amused by them and am usually able to have fun with it.
Unfortunately, that takes time, learning, and most of all experience. I feel a sense of regret when I think of all the years I spent feeling insecure and sorry for myself. What a total waste of my time and energy!
You mustn’t take anything your bullies say as the truth. You must know that their actions or words have nothing to do with you and everything to do with them! Hey! I know it’s hard not to, and I know it hurts. I know it’s hard not to blame yourself when it seems that everyone, from every direction, is bombarding you with negativity.
However, I want you to love yourself and see the bullies for who they truly are- pathetic souls who are so desperately trying to look tough, smart, or cool. I want you to understand that bullies are trying their hardest to get attention. You must know your value. You also need to realize that some people are just wrong for you and do not belong in your life!
Most of all, rest assured that you will eventually find people who are right for you. And when you do, they will love you for being loveable, beautiful, intelligent, and awesome you! There will come a day when you will be loved, appreciated, and celebrated for all that you are!
It happened to me, and if you don’t give up, it will happen to you too! You are worth fighting for! You are worth living for!